How to Connect with Authenticity for Greater Success

What stops us from being authentic - from stepping into the unique power we all have to offer? Normally, it's some type of fear.

• a fear of failure
• a fear of not being good enough
• a fear of being misunderstood
• a fear of not having the necessary skills or talents
• a fear of circumstance (often produced by some type of past pain)
• a fear of the unknown (what I call existential fear, or fear of the future)
• a fear of losing control or not being in control
• a fear of not having everything you need to take action (an extension of the fear of not being in control)
• a fear of rejection
• a fear that you might actually succeed! God forbid!

All these types of fear stem from I call the victim mindset. And the victim mindset is built on limitation and fear. There are 2 ways to dissolve this mindset so you can be more authentic and abundant.

1. Become mindful of the victim mindset and the words it uses like, "You don't understand me!" Thoughts that arise out of the victim mindset are usually fear-based. They keep one stuck in a rut. It's therefore difficult to be motivated to take action aligned with your vision and purpose if you're being drained by such negative thoughts. Just becoming mindful of these thoughts and how they prevent you from taking relevant action can loosen their grip.
2. Relax! You can do this by bringing your awareness to your state of consciousness (what you feel). If you're fearful, you'll more than likely be tense, hard and closed. If you're relaxed you'll be open, flowing and soft. The only way to move from tense to relaxed is to surrender to what you're feeling in the present moment. Only by allowing yourself to feel whatever you feel fully, can you transcend any uncomfortable feeling (tension). 

Note: tension may not necessarily be a bad thing. Healthy tension can actually be very useful in helping one to engage with the creative process.

Now that you've relaxed and created some space around your thoughts, you can connect with who you are and what you want (authentic identity). 

You're ready to draw up a unique vision for the type of life you wish to live. And you can begin to set relevant goals and take aligned action to reap the benefits of more 'authentic' success!