What happens to you when you are faced with rejection, be it business or personal, on the level of mind, body and emotions?
The natural tendency is to tense up in the face of rejection. This has a profound effect on the way that we think, act, behave and feel.
If you are not relaxed enough to let in your rejection, you will ultimately have a difficult time in transcending it.
Your body/mind contracts, you may encounter stress or anxiety, or perhaps even generate an anger within.
This is due to the fact that the contraction that you just experienced at the time of your rejection, if you end up pushing back against it, fuels the Victim mindset.
The words: “I’m not good enough,” or “Can’t you see how hard I tried,” or “It’s not my fault,” may start to circulate in your mind.
The more constant this chatter becomes, the more you end up playing the role of the victim which can have negative consequences on your behavior.
It may have a crippling effect on you going for future business opportunities, it may breed a lack of self confidence, or you may begin to harbor the belief or assumption that you will never make it, or be successful in achieving your goal.
The rejection is given the power that now controls your actions and behavior as well as your thinking, thereby limiting your opportunities for future growth and development.
If however, you allow yourself to feel the pain of rejection fully, as opposed to trying to push it away, you can begin to give yourself the opportunity to learn from the experience and bounce back even stronger.
The purpose of the victim mindset is to allow the rejection to shape behavior through the means of trying to get rid of the uncomfortable feeling generated by the rejection. Trying to control this uncomfortable feeling can drive a wedge between you and your goal.
Next time you’re faced with rejection, be it personal or business, instead of pushing back against it to try and get rid of it, try let it in and observe it and see what happens. Do you get different results?
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