Andrew is a commodity trader for one of the big investment banks on Wall Street. He is a serious player with a poker face and a don't mess demeanor. With years of practice and hustle in the corporate boardroom, Andrew's invincible facade is dark, shinny and expensive as a Ferrari. No emotions scratch the surface of this man's put-on calm.
But deep down Andrew is in pain because for so many years he's neglected his creative talents for life on Wall Street. There's a certain arrogance about him, an innate confidence, but when things go wrong, he's uncertain how to get back on an even keel.
Andrew can feel his boat is starting to creek but by pushing-back and resisting the uncertainty, he hopes to control the shakiness so it doesn't appear to dent his masculinity. But this only serves to drive his anger and frustration even deeper.
He no longer buys into the values of the company. His work erodes his self-esteem and his confidence has taken a hit. He's fighting a battle on 2 fronts - frequent disagreements with his boss have surfaced and he feels like he's not getting the love and respect he deserves from his wife.
Andrew is at a cross-roads, a crisis point, unsure how to proceed, uncertain about his path and his future. What does he do?
With the help of a coach, Andrew learns to relax his tension around feelings of anger and frustration. He does this by gaining presence. As he gains presence, he begins to objectify his behavior and observe how he plays out the victim mindset. Whenever Andrew notices he's been resisting his feelings to try and control them, he's been using the victim mindset.
Andrew begins to reflect on the working knowledge of the victim and the logic it uses to justify its own irrational behavior. Andrew questions his line of thinking and asks himself: " with this type of thinking am I more or less empowered than before?" He notices that the flow of logic that he has been using leaves him less empowered, a logic built on limit.
Although Andrew realizes he's been using this irrational logic for most of his working life, he starts to feel more intuitive and open to create the life he wants to live. Through this objectification process, he gains a higher level of self-mastery as opposed to self-control.
Andrew realizes he's not his mindset. He is the power that supplies the program of his mindset. He's the animator of his mindset. Whoa! What a relief.
Andrew begins to tap into the creative powers that have been laying dormant in his consciousness for the past 10 years. He has the means to create whatever he wants. He knows he can intuitively and with a measure of consistency, begin to influence his life.
No doubt there will be ups and downs along the way, but he knows this is all part of the learning process. As he starts to rebuild his life and business, Andrew understands that the challenges he will face are part of a life-long journey of self-mastery.
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