A couple of years ago I was really stuck - in a job that I hated, battling feelings of anxiety, anger and depression, wanting to escape, wanting to get rid of the constant negative self-talk in my mind..
This lead me to understand what lies at the heart of "stuckness" and with a coach managed to understand that it is "push-back."
The push-back manifests itself as resistance to the type of feelings described above. The more one tries to resist, the deeper one drives the tension, the harder it becomes to escape the rut.
What is needed to begin to escape the rut is to observe ones mindset in relation to whatever is causing one to get stuck. By really familiarizing oneself with this process, it becomes possible to arrive at the realization that one has allowed oneself to become a victim of these particular feelings, thought patterns and belief systems.
By actually resisting, pushing back and trying to control the negative self-talk and the uncomfortable feelings, we conversely make the situation worse.
If you can't see yourself playing out these roles that stop you from moving forward with a sense of purpose, consider allowing someone to help you to bring more perspective and objectivity to the areas where you push-back. Alternatively, observe your behavior in relation to the feelings as well as the thoughts - what comes up?
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